Mediation, Divorce and Separation Advice

I need to do case search for a pending divorce case. The papers have been filed, but the divorce has not been finalized for DC Residents

It depends on how suave you are with being a web sleuth.

I’ve found things that other have searched years for in a matter of minutes.

Its all about know HOW to search.

Depending on laws in DC, you should be able to find that the divorce was at least filed for.

Most records are available to the public if you know how to get to them.

Looking to find good information on divorce laws in Australia – please point in right direction.
Does it make any difference what state you live in – or what country you were originally married in (Canada)?
What is the best state to get divorced in if you are male and primary money maker?
No kids involved.
Both parties working – one makes significantly/saves more than the other.

Under the Constitution of Australia, marriage is one area which is handled by the Federal Govt, so it makes no difference which State you live in. The Federal courts – the Family Court and the Federal Magistrates Court – follow the same precedents nationwide.

For more info, go to familycourt.gov.au and austlii.edu.au

i have this issue just recieved my copy of mediation report for child custody. The mediator awarded the father of our 13 yr son temporary sole custody until our next court date. So i hired an attorney can she convince the judge that our children are better off with me.(mother) also the report said we have joint of our daughter who is 8yrs. Has this happend to anyone where it went a different way with the mediator then a different way with the judge?

Has anyone bothered to raise the issue that your ex is an "ex-con"? I would have thought that would be an issue for custody. And yes, you need a lawyer. Never ever ever go to court without a lawyer. You need someone to protect your rights and make sure that no one pulls a fast one on you!

You may also have to hire a private detective to check up on your ex. Bad character will not look good for his chances of custody. And can you prove that your son’s school work has gotten worse under your ex’s supervision? That is also a no-no!

Get that lawyer and get working on it! By the way, did you agree with mediation? I think that is always a mistake. Anyway, get that lawyer.

Has anyone ever gone to mediation and then worked out their marriage? I know this sounds crazy but my husband and I still want our marriage to work. I don’t want to go to mediation but for whatever reason, we still are. I want him to come back home. He left my son and I a few months ago…just didn’t feel like being married anymore. But now he says he wants the marriage to work and that he loves me. I love him and I want this too. That’s why I don’t understand why we’re still doing to mediation. It’s on Tuesday. He says if we get things temporarily worked out with our son then we can work on "us". Has this happened with anyone else? Or am I being stuping? I believe in standing up for your marriage, what do you think?

Also, what do you wear to mediation?
There’s no way around it…he wants to go to mediation. We tried about a month ago to go to counseling and he said we’d go back after we worked it out in mediation with our son…

instead of mediation go to therapy while living apart…this will help you both come to a solid decision…if you do go to mediation there is no dress code…it’s only an office visit

well then I would suggest going–he obviously wants to. But be prepared–he might want a divorce….just prepare yourself

the main reasons, situations, causes, that cause a wife and husband to break-up. Is it financial problems? Communication? I know cheating or having an affair is obvious, but I don’t think that happens as often for other reasons, what usually causes a wife and husband, even if they have children or not, what usually causes them to fight and argue that will ultimately end in divorce or separation? I am just wondering because the divorce rate is very high, like at least 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, what are the main causes of divorce?

it begins with being unable to communicate, or problem solve, but betrayal is the real reason it ends.

Hey! So I just went through the California Mediation process for my daughter. I feel I did well. I was calm, cool, and collective and realize the father was trying to push my buttons. I’m asking for sole legal and physical custody. Yes I’m filing for cs and even offering him visitative (supervised). However, he believes it’s absurd. Hello? He hasn’t seen his daughter nor made know attempt to see her or ask how she is doing. First thing he said in mediation was try to bring me down and saying I was harassing him. I clearly am not. I personally wish to have no contact with him. I told the mediator I was there strictly on behalf of my daughter and what was between us is in the pass. At first he stated in his declaration he wanted nothing. Now he is stating he wants joint legal custody and UNsupervised visitation and both of us go through a psyche evalution. The mediator told him he was hostile and how much psyche evaulution costs. $1,500-$3,000. Yet he makes claims he is ..
claims he is unable to support himself and can’t pay child support. Hmmm… He claims I’ve threatening him and tried to show the mediator papers from his friends about me. The mediator didn’t look at them because all papers submitted must go to all parties. ME! Help! Anyone that has been through the process…Did I do the right thing just by being calm, cool, and collective? I could bring up all the times he has called me/emailed me/ etc etc..but I don’t have that kind of time. It’s not worth it.
All his paperwork contradicts himself and is all over the place. Whereas, mine is consisted. He has threatened me that he was going to put my daughter (The daughter he hasn’t seen up for adoption) and trying to make me seem unstable and unfit. Why do guys do this? My lawyer said he is lucky he is even getting visitation. And he is stating he has lost friends because of me and it’s my fault his life has been hell. I haven’t done anything bad to him but try to include him in his daughter’s life but he choses not to exericise those rights.
Oh and also, he wanted me to leave the room as he talks to the mediator alone. Of course the mediator didn’t allow that. He than started to go off on me stated I how I’ve made his life a living hell. He dominated the room with how hostile he was. I think maybe I was too passive and didn’t say more but all I did say what about my daughter and I. What I request and didn’t talk bad on him at all.
Oh also…..what he had the nerve to say was that I was obessed over him when it took me 4 months to actually go out with him after he persisted on me to date him? Hmmm….He tried to say I was obessive with him? He would call me all the time, text, email me, etc. And he saids I was obessive? Pretty funny…I was laughing inside.
Oh anothing thing that pissed me off on the inside is that he said things like I would break into his place leaving my stuff behind, when he very well knew his roommate let me in and we’re friends. He knew I left my things at his house and he turns it around saying I’m like stalking him. I was biting my tonge hard to not explode at him and put him back in check to know that isn’t true but I kept my cool. I’m just worried about the visitation. I don’t want him to have unsupervised and clearly his actions and behavorior demonstrate he needs supervised visitation.

I think what you did was the right thing.. By letting him "get your goat" so to speak, will prove his case.. Its best to sit back, and bite your tongue.. If he’s that irrational, and hostile, then I dont think even supervised visits are advised until he can get counceling.. I’m afraid that I’m going to have to go through something similiar in Oregon, when my son’s father decides again that he wants to see my son

I need a mediator to help the other parent and I resolve specific issues, such as him denying my parenting time for no reason at all, he keeps my kids from talking to me and me contacting them, and he has not been following the parenting plan. So, I have to get him to come to mediation and I need to address this to him in writing so I need to put a appropriate and professional letter together to suggest mediation and for him to sign and check mark which day works best for him and to send it back to me & the mediator. Any suggestions?

Just ask and emphasize the importance of it.

i’m looking for an unarmed guard with martial arts training to be present at a victim-offender mediation session in brooklyn. needs to have basic state license.

Just put "certified martial arts proficiency" in your list of required skills when posting the job opening.

If a certain "state license" is needed, specify it in the prerequisites.

what is it like, good experience and have you gone on to have a better relationship with clear boundaries?
Im a proper mediation centre with toys about a newborn (which my ex has no experience off)

My ex is abusive to it’s that or nothing!

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sorry what i mean’t to say is these are mediation centres with trained staff and counciling.

Im pregnant and the baby is nearly here, he will have to see the baby like this or no other way as his family are not talking to him and neither are mine, because he is abusive and a bully. A simple hello and goodbye will be twisted and reduce me to tears.

well 1st of all i’m sorry to hear this i have a smilar prob! if it was me again i wouldnt put his name on the birth certificate as this gives him legal rights! and when the baby is first born i dont think its a good idea to be taking your baby to a contact centre get to know your baby first and bring it up the best you can on ya own its stressful for children to go to these centre i know thro experiance and also know that a tiny baby needs its mummy and needs to settle into the world before going to a contact centre! this was told to me by CAB and i agree!

very best of look take care

We are currently seperated and want to attend mediation but want to be prepared when going in there. i want to print everything up before hand. does anyone know the specific questions that will be asked.

Topics will include:

1. What are your possessions? Prior, during and after separation
2. If you have kids, who will get custody, visitation, and pay child suport?.
3. Do you need spousal support?
4. Who will keep cars, homes,etc? How will you divide possessions?
5. Do restraining orders need to be issued?